Looking for a quick and easy Halloween costume for your bump?
What about this?
Looking for a quick and easy Halloween costume for your bump?
What about this?
Thought this might resonate with a few people.
Even women who aren’t bigger more often than not have hangups and reservations about their bodies. How often do we delete photos other people have taken of us (or refuse to look at them) because we don’t like what we see?
But perhaps we don’t see what the person taking the photo sees. Have a read:
Flipping through the pictures on my phone, I see it.
My first reaction is shock. Who took this hideous picture of me?
Self-loathing and disgust swell up and threaten to bring me to tears.
Just as I am about to hit delete, my boy walks in the room.
“Do you know anything about this picture?” I ask him.
I turn the screen so he can see it. He smiles huge.
“I took that of you in Tahoe,” he says. “You looked so beautiful laying there. I couldn’t help it mom.”
“You need to ask me before using my phone to take pictures,” I say.
“I know,” he says. “But mom, seriously, look how pretty you look?”
I look at the picture again and try to see what he sees.
My daughter walks over and takes a look.
“That could be a postcard mom,” she says smiling. “You’re so beautiful. I love it.”
I take a deep breath.
This is exactly what I needed.
My default mode is to see and focus on the flaws and imperfections. I’m starting to see a bit more.
I still see my dimply, fat thighs.
I also see a mom collapsed on the shore that just explored the lake for hours with her children.
I still see chubby arms.
I also see the arms of a mom that just helped her kids across the rocks and hot sand so their feet wouldn’t hurt.
I still see a fat woman wearing a black dress bathing suit to try to hide her weight issue.
I also see an adventurous mom that loves her children something fierce.
Like many women, I have struggled with my weight most of my life. It’s not something that will ever go away for me. I don’t have a naturally slim body. Never have.
Right now I’m the heaviest I’ve been in 10 years. Yet…
I have not let my weight stop me this time. I am wearing tank tops, sundresses and bathing suits in public. I’m running around playing with my kids this summer and I sometimes even feel attractive.
Yes. You heard me.
“I feel pretty. Oh so pretty. I feel pretty, and witty and bright.”
Well…not exactly. But something like that.
Is it because I’m getting older? Is it that I have more to worry about than just how I look? Or maybe it’s because my kids look at me with such adoring eyes.
Really, it doesn’t matter.
I don’t hate my body anymore.
That’s huge for me to admit and hard to even wrap my mind around.
I’m not giving up on exercising and getting healthy. Those are things I will continue to strive for because I want to be around awhile.
Right now though, I just want to love my body where it is. I want it to be OK to see myself the way my kids do.
Thank you kids.”
Read the original post at Bridgette Tales
Lots of women are truly stumped when it comes to working out what they’re going to wear in labour.
If you thought the suppliers for maternity wear were few – options for plus-size nighties and such are even fewer!
Especially if you don’t want them to look like you’ve borrowed them from your 90 year old granny!
But Big Birtha has some ideas, and some links to suppliers. Click here: Help!? What Do I Wear in Labour!?
Would you like to share your pregnancy experiences with others in a TV documentary?
Barcroft Productions is looking for pregnant women with high BMI to take part in an observational documentary following the final weeks of their pregnancy.
See the attached:
Pregnancy Poster (102.5 KiB)
If this applies to you, and you think you might be interested, please contact Claudia Guerrette at Barcroft as soon as possible to discuss further or to ask more questions about the production.
In case anyone is wondering, Big Birtha doesn’t have any connection to the documentary makers or the production, other than being approached to participate. So I can’t give any assurances on the likely editorial nature.
So, ‘Plus Size Modeling’ started a campaign on Facebook – asking whether people think companies like Mattel should make plus-sized versions of dolls like Barbie.
Of course, it’s a publicity stunt. But a publicity stunt that 40,000 people ‘liked’, and which has garnered a considerable amount of press, especially in the US.
The image used was nothing new – it was actually the winning entry to a 2011 Worth1000.com photoshop competition to digitally ‘fatten up’ celebrities. Funnily enough, the photo has been mistakenly attributed to Mattel, with some people thinking that there are plans afoot to create such a doll. Curiously, or perhaps wisely, Mattel seems to have stayed completely quiet on the matter.
This isn’t the first (and I’m guessing it won’t be the last) time that attention has been drawn to the unrealistic proportions of Barbie; we’ve had artists compare Barbie to real women: http://www.myvouchercodes.co.uk/the-code-word/what-would-barbie-look-like-in-real-life/
We’ve had doctors compare Barbie to real women, even to the extent of calculating that Barbie would not have the requisite amount of body fat to menstruate. http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/magazine/7920962.stm
We’ve had eating disorder sites deconstructing the media’s treatment of women and obsession with size, and studies showing that girls exposed to Barbie as opposed to a more realistic sized doll had less self-esteem about their bodies, and a stronger desire to be thin. http://www.rehabs.com/explore/dying-to-be-barbie/
More worrying is that we’ve even had young (and not so young) girls go to drastic lengths to make themselves look more like dolls. Valeria Lukyanova has reputedly spent $800,000 on plastic surgery to make her look more like her idol.
And yet, Barbie dolls are still on sale 55 years on, and people are still buying them. It’s hardly surprising – after all, the images we see in magazines of models and celebrities are more representative of Barbie’s dimensions than they are of the real female form.
But which came first, the chicken, or the egg? Did generations of children growing up being marketed the implausibly proportioned Barbie learn to love the lean, or is Barbie merely holding up a mirror to the attitudes already prevalent in society, and giving consumers what they want?
Let’s be brutally honest. I’m not convinced a plus-size Barbie would be anything more than a flash in the pan. So what’s the answer, I wonder?
I think it has to start with campaigns like the one above. If photographs are digitally enhanced, they should say so. And, more’s the point, the disclaimer should be required to be of a size that people can actually read it.
Or even better, retailers should have the confidence to mount campaigns like this US lingerie brand. And we consumers need to vote with our feet and our wallets to support them (hell, not that I look a jot like her, but it’s a step in the right direction…).
I try my very best to only project body-positive attitudes in the presence of my daughter.
Even when she points out my wobbly bits.
Really, I attempt to minimise discussion about image at all, and instead focus on other qualities, trying hard, being clever, being kind, good manners etc. But with the best will in the world I can’t remove all the other influences in her life, even if some of them are ultimately negative, and nor should I attempt to.
What I can do, though, is try to inspire her to see herself in as positive a light as possible, through making sure she sees me see myself in as positive a light as possible.
And here’s why:
It’s a very poignant letter from an Australian book called ‘Dear Mum‘: a collection of letters from Australian sporting stars, musicians, models, cooks and authors revealing what they would like to say to their mothers before it’s too late, or would have said if only they’d had the chance, with profits going to the Australian National Breast Cancer Foundation
Just over a month ago, I was musing/complaining about the lack of real-size mannequins in our stores, and showing the example of a Swedish store who have been successfully using normal sized models for years.
Well, to my extreme surprise and delight, Debenhams have announced that they have an army of size 16 mannequins which they will be using in all 170 stores across the UK. http://www.theguardian.com/business/2013/nov/06/debenhams-first-department-store-size-16-models
Hopefully this will be an emerging trend. A recent study involving nearly three thousand women in North America, Canada and China undertaken by researchers from the University of Cambridge found that women in Canada were three times more likely to buy clothes when the models in advertisements were their size.
So we don’t necessarily respond favourably to the stick thin coathangers on legs we’re always told ‘sell clothes’ after all!
So come on, UK retailers – let your profits expand with the waistlines of your mannequins and give us something we can relate to!