Amber, are you in the UK? Just wanted to …

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Comment on Water Birth by Angela Horn.

Amber, are you in the UK? Just wanted to check as the legal position obviously varies between countries; the rest of my message assumes you are in the UK. Did you say to the consultant that you might plan an unattended home birth, or was he referring to you simply staying at home and asking for a midwife to attend? Certainly nobody can be prosecuted simply for planning a home birth! And even if you were threatening to go unattended, as Big Birtha says, the legal position isn’t as simple as he thinks. would be your best source of up-to-date information; the Homebirth Reference Site mentioned above is mine but I’ve not been keeping up with developments in this area recently so best to check with AIMS as they really are brilliant when women are being bullied.
You can plan a home birth and simply state that you will not be going to hospital. If you obtain a birth pool, your attending midwife cannot stop you using it. If you are sure that this is what you want to do, personally I’d stop having discussions and keep correspondence in writing, so that everybody has to think carefully about what they are saying to you. Maybe you’ve already done this, but just in case you haven’t, your next move might be to write to the Supervisor of Midwives saying something like :
“I have had a very stressful meeting with Consultant X, who has refused to support my intention to use a birth pool in labour on the basis of my size. I will not be attending any further appointments with Consultant X as I found his attitude intimidating (or whatever). It is very important to me to have the opportunity to use a birth pool, and I would like your written confirmation that you will support me in this in hospital. If you cannot provide this then I intend to change my plans to a home birth, where I will be able to labour in water, and would like you to change my booking accordingly. Yours etc..”